Just Shoot Me!

The last two months of my life have been consumed by moving my mother-in-law (MiL) from her 3,200 square foot home into the 1,200 square foot house we had purchased next door. We had finally finished renovating it and it proved to be the perfect way for MiL to downsize. Her decision to move happened just when the restrictions of Covid-19 were put in place, which meant that moving companies were not available. As luck would have it, the church where I work shut down too, so I had time to move her 6,254 containers filled with a lifetime accumulation of memorabilia, plant food, bank statements, and the ordinary contents of the American home.

The moving took weeks as she sorted and re-sorted the stuff she wanted to take with her and the stuff she was going to leave behind. Her aging brain grew increasingly confused as she lost track of the thread of organization and I grew more and more frustrated as she repeated stories about the origin of each item.

At one point MiL asked me what she should do with her gun. I was nonplussed to think that an 86 year-old, deaf woman would HAVE a gun!

She explained that she kept it in case a burglar broke in. So, when Mike came to pick up a load of furniture, he asked her to show it to him. She went to the freezer in the hall at the garage end of the house, where she pulled out a yogurt container which contained the combination to the safe. She then tottered down the hall to the pantry, where she got down on her knees and laboriously dialed the combination. Without too much difficulty, she found the KEY to the drawer in the display case, at the end of the hall, at the opposite end of the 3200 square foot house, which held the gun.

About this time, the visual image of the poor burglar, who had somehow managed to get her attention over the sound of the TV blaring at top volume, and was now making himself a peanut butter sandwich (no jelly, because she doesn’t like jelly, which she no doubt told him because she has never liked jelly, even as a child, and her kids never ate jelly either) while he waited for her to retrieve the gun, which, terrifyingly was LOADED, so that he could take it away from her because, it was perhaps the ONLY thing in the house that had any resale value…unless he was into selling happy crap Christmas ornaments on EBay.

Of course a story ensued about the origin of the little pistol, which was still in its original box indicating it had been purchased at Western Auto for the price of $56, a tidy sum in 1965. Every indication was that it had never been fired THANK GOD! Back in the days when Mike’s dad (FiL) had been active in the union at Kaiser, things had gotten ugly, as union affairs sometimes do; and he felt threatened enough to feel he needed a gun for protection. MiL explained that FiL was not able to purchase a gun in his own name as he had a CRIMINAL RECORD, so he bought it in her name. I tried to sound casual when I asked what his crime had been and she answered mildly, “Domestic violence.”

“Do you know how to use it?” I squeaked.

“No, but how hard can it be?”, she replied. “You just point and pull the trigger.”

~sigh~ of relief. If she didn’t know how to manually cock it, she probably couldn’t pull the trigger hard enough to cock it, and if she did, would just blow a hole in the ceiling…before the burglar put down his peanut butter sandwich and took it away from her.

8 thoughts on “Just Shoot Me!

  1. Lordy! When my mother moved across country to live with my sister, we went through the same thing – every item she handled required a recitation of its history and value before she decided to keep it or not. Fortunately we had a huge garage sale and several dealers came and bought tons of stuff. It was still difficult but we managed to pare it down to one U-Haul truck that was for the most part furniture. Some stuff we were able to donate… but even Goodwill wouldn’t take the ginormous box TV and it ended up being offered for free to a good home. Some college students grabbed it! What a relief!


    1. We should take a lesson from our mothers and begin divesting ourselves of our superfluous junk now. I’m so grateful to my mom for being the opposite of a hoarder. When she died, I don’t think all of her possessions even filled a wheelie bin. She hadn’t bought anything new in twenty years saying, “How much longer am I going to live anyway” whenever I tried to persuade her to upgrade.


  2. Judy RR, I laughed all the way through this story. It’s not funny having to move someone old into a much smaller space. Zillions of boxes, confusion, the repetition of stories that makes you want to rip your own hair out… But the part about the gun was too much, her zig-zagging from one end of the house to the other for combinations, keys, etc while the burglar daddled around making himself a plain peanut butter sandwich, that she had no clear idea how to use it. LOL.


  3. I have to confess, I got the idea from Jim Jeffries’ comedy routine on gun control. There have been numerous times that I had to laugh that I might not weep during this ordeal but overall, it’s been a …well let’s just say it’s been a learning experience.


    1. Humor is the only way to deal with the vagaries of aging. When my patience was challenged, I reminded myself that I am only twenty years away from being where MiL is now. I can only hope that there will be someone kind to help me through such a difficult task and that I will be as congenial as this dear woman is.


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